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Straight up? It’s a yes and a no. Yes – your relationship can survive, for better or for worse. In some cases, there’s eventually a positive that emerges long-term after infidelity – that an affair was one of the few things dramatic and life-changing enough to bring the couple back to a strong erotic connection. It’s …
It’s one of the most dreaded destinations on the map but a lot of us end up there. Some marriages just aren’t meant to be but others careen out of control down the road to Divorce Land due to lack of awareness, poor relationship skills and fear of admitting there’s a problem until it’s too …
You’re ready and willing but your partner, who used to enjoy sex as much as you, seems to increasingly prefer Netflix. It’s frustrating and it leads you to feeling less than sexy. But take heart – when your partner doesn’t seem to be feeling it – there’s actually a lot you can do. And usually …
Family just let’s you come back. Even in the imperfect, at times estranged extended family mine has shown itself to be over the years, love can somehow hold fast. It clearly remains a strong force in us, despite our imperfect channeling of it. I felt a little anxious on the way to dinner with extended family members …
I’m creating a companion resource, a workbook to partner my upcoming book when it is released early next year. My book is about creating the life and relationships you desire. It’s all about love because essentially, everything important to us in life is motivated by love or lack of it. I set about creating it thinking I’d …
If love is going wrong everything else seems wrong for a while too, doesn’t it? Before you answer – I’m not just talking about romantic love here like it’s the be-all-and-end-all. It’s possible to have a fulfilled, rich life without couple love. But life generally sucks if you’re out of touch with the three big …
When couples look for marriage help they’ve often been going around in circles of frustration and resentment for so long that part of my job is to remind them how to speak nicely to one another. It’s odd really because the same people can usually communicate perfectly nicely with all the other people in the life. …
Long distance relationships are difficult and to be honest, as a therapist I don’t recommend spending weeks or months apart if you can avoid it. However, I know first hand that life and work sometimes leave no other choice. The good news is that if you and your beloved need to be apart, there is …
Long distance relationships are tricky beasts. A little time apart can enhance passion when you get back together because you’re so excited to see each other. You miss each other and have likely fantasised about the reunion. However, many couples find that the thrill of missing each other soon wears off. Most of us who endure regular periods of separation for work or …
It’s a cringe-worthy but still common Hollywood movie formula: Girl meets boy, they clash at first sight but have to work together (arguing all the way). When they disagree they slap each other’s faces or trade smart-arse one liners before jumping into the sack for some sexy time, APPARENTLY turned on after that little spot of violence. Why do we even put up with …