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“Will it last?” It’s the question that can’t help crossing most people’s minds when a couple announces an engagement. There are a few good indicators of which relationships are going to see the distance and which are likely to be doomed. Years of helping couples as a therapist means I’ve seen the good, the bad and the …
When is it too late to save a relationship? The short answer: When you’ve let too much resentment accumulate between you. You probably no longer see the good in your partner as outweighing the bad. It’s likely you have few positive feelings left for your partner, or perhaps no feelings at all. It’s surprising how …
It was a big day when mindfulness hit me as a super power – an innate power I could channel to improve my life. I’d been studying yoga and meditation for some time and I had the THEORY totally down, but apparently it hadn’t really sunk into my heart and gut. Because there I was on an …
When my previous partner died about 5 years ago it catapulted me forward in every way imaginable. You don’t need that kind of agony to propel yourself forward – but when bad things happen, you don’t want to waste the insights. Death shines the harsh light of ultimate reality on those left behind, so for a while …
Love means paying attention, in a very particular way. Yet, too often we don’t focus the force of our attention on who and what we love. We get caught up in the more pressing and ultimately less important stuff. We think others know how much they mean to us. But only freely given attention helps people …
How do you re-energize a relationship that’s become more like friends than lovers? It’s a common question and it’s not surprising that many people struggle with it. Long term love brings companionship, warmth, safety and soft feelings (especially in family settings) and those feelings while fantastic, don’t always inspire the heat, edginess and desire for adventure …